Dirty Laundry

I am so sick and tired of hearing how guys/girls always try to bash their ex-partners to make themselves look ‘bad.’ Excuse me for a few minutes, folks, because I am about to sound very ratchet as I speak about this subject.

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There may be a few ex boyfriends that I am not so very keen of but there was also a reason I dated them to begin with. It is true that someone you once shared such passion with can one day become a complete stranger. Does that give you the right to speak so ill of them? I don’t necessarily think so, even if they are the ones who began this battle. Don’t stoop down to that level because once you hit the dirt, it will be a long way back up to the top.

If you do, however, want to air that dirty laundry to the public just make sure that what you are saying holds value. What does that mean? Instead of false rumors just speak the truth. I am sure the satisfaction of knowing that you can honestly call someone out is much more riveting than a sleazy lie to make yourself sound like the good guy.

What if you’re the bad guy? Well, then, my friend it is time to reevaluate yourself and what you have to offer others and to yourself. Don’t continue down that slump of being a bad person. Give your ex a chance to see that maybe they have been the one to miss out on something good underneath those tacky layers. I’m a firm believer that if you want to change then you are the only one with the power to do so.

Don’t get so bitter to the point where you have to talk so much nonsense about another person to feel good about yourself. Do you know what that makes you? A coward who hides behind lies because you know it is truly you that you are ashamed of.

Respect. Forgiveness.

Not everyone deserves your kindness. Sometimes the best medicine you can give someone so sick is quiet. Simply just stay away and learn that by doing so you are also saving yourself from contamination. I realized this a little later on but I am very happy to know that I made it happen for myself. I always believed in giving people chances; chances to prove themselves, chances for a change, chances to make amends. I’ve never done the

three strikes, you’re out

because I know everyone is susceptible to mistakes, and many of them. I never once thought my decision to give someone a fighting chance was actually me taking a stab at my own back, however. That’s what happens when you give someone unworthy a fighting chance.
Respect is a beautiful thing that can be easily ruined and dirtied. I have tried very hard to respect others, although they clearly hold no value to themselves. My father is a forgiving man and he taught me to forgive others for all of their wrong doings. My grandmother is a master at holding grudges and she taught me to never forget what people have done to wrong you. You can’t take away what is said and done. I will forgive but I won’t forget. But I’m not my grandmother so I won’t hold any grudges. I’m better than that.

Parenting

What defines a parent? Is it from the moment the male sperm hits the female egg? Is it from the moment the child is born? There are many different opinions on this one particular topic of parenting.

For me, personally, what makes you a parent isn’t based on a fertilized egg or the birth of that baby. To become a true parent you must be there for that offspring physically, mentally, emotionally, and endlessly. There is no limit to what a parent is and what a parent does. And if you ever find yourself in a predicament where you have to choose between the wellness of you or your child, remember to put your child first.